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Nevuela

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Where Have All the Boys' Names Gone? (ParentDish)

Jun 15th 2010 1:58AM You, my friend, are not weird at all, but instead very smart. Who the hell wants a boring, run-of-the-mill, hand-me-down common name like John or Mary? I have an unusual name myself, and even though I was teased relentleslly as a kid for it, I LOVE it.

Oh, btw, studies show that boys with UNUSUAL names (especially names perceived as feminine) are more likely to have mental problems. No similar problem was found in girls with odd or masculine names, which just goes to show how sexist we teach our sons to be without even realizing it.

Where Have All the Boys' Names Gone? (ParentDish)

Jun 15th 2010 1:53AM I think Rinnin is pretty cool. Kudos to you for wanting to give your kid a unique name rather than a boring, dime-a-dozen hand-me-down like John, or jumping on the bandwagon with current trends like Hayden that will promptly be regretted in five years.

But... is that really the name YOU want to give your son? Remember, as the mother, you are what is known as the "true parent," and therefore you alone have the right to name all of your children whatever you want, regardless of what their father wants. He's not the one who carried and gave birth to them, so why the hell should he have a say in naming kids?

Where Have All the Boys' Names Gone? (ParentDish)

Jun 15th 2010 1:45AM Why is our society so damn sexist that it's totally okay to give a girl a boy's name, but not vice versa? And now if a boy's name becomes popular as a girl's name, you suddenly "shouldn't" use that name for boys anymore? There are several cultures out there that ONLY have unisex names - in other words, they have absolutely NO names that indicate gender, or even pronouns like "he" and "she." Sexism should either be applied in both directions, or not at all.

I Became a Stepmom by 25 (Lemondrop)

Jun 4th 2010 12:58AM THANK YOU!!!

Kidlets - such an immature word. This woman is obviously very new at child-raising. I bet they hate being called that. I know I would.

And thank you again for the comment about criticism. I can't believe how many stupid people out there automatically believe the person they're dating when they claim their ex is evil. Well duh! Yet everyone oh so conveniently forgets how their own exes badmouth them. Ever notice how your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife is NEVER the bad guy? They ALWAYS, without fail, tell you how it was their ex that ruined the relationship.

And damn it people, stop falling for that "you're way better than my ex" bullshit! They're just saying that so they can get in your pants! Relationship counselors and researchers warn you not to marry anyone you haven't known for at least two years, and for a very good reason. Look at all the abusive husbands out there who hid their true colors until marriage. They can't hide it for two whole years, ladies.

I Became a Stepmom by 25 (Lemondrop)

Jun 4th 2010 12:51AM Excuse me? How dare you call someone you don't even know a whore! Just because she married someone a lot older than her doesn't make her a whore. Last time I checked, screwing around with multiple partners maeks you a whore, not marrying and staying faithful to one person and loving their stepchildren like their own. Jealous, are we? And how can she be a gold digger if her husband isn't even rich? Besides, a man marrying a woman barely older than his children is a pervert. There are HOW many women out there his own age, yet he just happens to fall for the super young sexy one? Yeah, right.

I Became a Stepmom by 25 (Lemondrop)

Jun 4th 2010 12:42AM I hate to break it to you, honey, but your husband doesn't love you. There is NO way a man falls in love with a woman younger than his own daughter. I mean, how could he NOT think about how creepy it is to date and marry someone younger than his own children? And have you ever noticed that practically NO man ever marries a woman significantly older than him? Men only want to marry the youngest, sexiest woman they can get their hands on, nothing more.

If it were really about love, he'd have married one of the many women his own age he no doubt is acquainted with. He obviously just didn't like them for their personalities enough to get past their not-good-enough looks. And no matter what your stepkids say, they most certainly are NOT comfortable with a stepmother in their peer group. WHo ever would be okay with that? At least at first?

And before you fly off the handle at me, tell me what you look like. I bet you have a pretty nice face and figure, right? Then show me a man who is married to an unattractive, overweight woman. I bet you anything he's just as unattractive as she is. Have you EVER seen a good-looking guy with an ugly or fat woman? Of course not, because they only judge by looks, not personality. I know plenty of women whose beauty is only on the inside, yet no one wants to marry or even date them. And I know a lot of beautiful women who have bad attitudes, but their boyfriends and hubbies don't care, as long as they have their trophies.

There were plenty of women out their your husband could have married, but he chose you because you were the most attractive physically. Just watch. You'll be divorced in less than ten years, guaranteed. I've seen it a thousand times.

I Became a Stepmom by 25 (Lemondrop)

Jun 4th 2010 12:25AM Wow. While I feel bad about your personal situation, you need to realize one thing: your stepmother experience is YOURS alone. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with the countless stepparent/stepchild relationships out there that are actually very, very good. I have two close friends who got along WAY better with their stepdads than their real dads. Your advice is very poorly thought-out. What you should have suggested was to use caution when marrying someone with kids from a previous relationship, not to avoid it altogether. My friends would have missed out on a wonderful life if not for their stepfathers, if their moms had listened to advice such as yours.

Ride along on a freegan Dumpster dive and save some cash (WalletPop)

Mar 17th 2010 2:13AM Psssh, your loss. If you ever have the guts to dumpster dive, do it in a college/university town right after the semester's over. Many students choose to throw out perfectly good stuff rather than lug it back home with them.

My mom found a lot of great power tools, and I once found a multi-disc CD player, all looking and functioning perfectly. I didn't need a CD player, but I made $50 selling it.

Mother Never Told Dying Daughter End Was Near (ParentDish)

Sep 9th 2009 9:59PM Excuse me, Rebecca, but what did I just say? The very first thing I said was this: “Look, I can totally understand that we don't know what it's like until it happens to us personally, but can someone please explain why it's okay for an ADULT to know they're going to die, but not a child? Where exactly does one draw the line?”

The rest of my message was merely me stating my case against the decision to not tell a child he or she is dying. You need to learn to read the ENTIRE message before preaching to the person who posted it. Looks like you didn’t even read the first line. All I did was give all the reasons I believe a child has the right to know they’re dying. I have every right to do so. YOU have no right to tell me otherwise.

Mother Never Told Dying Daughter End Was Near (ParentDish)

Sep 9th 2009 9:24PM Look, I can totally understand that we don't know what it's like until it happens to us personally, but can someone please explain why it's okay for an ADULT to know they're going to die, but not a child? Where exactly does one draw the line? It's only a few years' age difference, after all. Like a 17-year-old. Still a child by law, but then suddenly they're 18 and they're adults. See what I mean?

Maybe terminally ill children wouldn't live the rest of their short lives in fear and sorrow if their parents just taught them the positive side of what we call death. You know, that all it is is that we move on to another realm of existence - heaven, maybe, depending on your beliefs - and that all their pain and suffering will be over. AND that they will be reunited with their family one day. Simple as that.

Besides, I feel that it is wrong to withhold such information from ANYONE because they should have the right to plan out their remaining days as they see fit. Maybe have the Make-a-Wish Foundation grant the poor kid’s wishes. I sure as hell would not keep my kid in school. What a waste of precious time that they could be spending with their family and enjoying what’s left of their life! Most kids don’t even like school, and there’s no point in learning anymore if they’re going to be gone soon, right?

How selfish it is, not only for the kid, but for their friends. One day the kid will be gone and all his or her friends will be in total shock and grief. If they had only known, then they could have spent more time with their friend before losing them. And what if they had had a fight with one of their friends, and they didn’t make up before the kid died? The other kid would probably never forgive himself for that, even though it’s the parents who should never be forgiven.

I think it should be against the law for anyone to withhold such crucial information from a child, no matter how young. The very first person the diagnosing doctor should break the news to is the child. I can tell you right now that I would NEVER, EVER forgive ANYONE who knew I was dying but didn’t tell me. Don’t you people realize that even CHILDREN have goals and dreams? And to not tell them that they only have a short time left on this earth completely ruins their chances at achieving them?

You people who agree with this woman make me sick, and I just pray your lost loved ones forgive you for what you’ve done to them. And don’t you DARE try to tell me that YOU wouldn’t want to be told you were dying soon. EVERYONE wants to have their affairs in order before they go. At the very least make a will so that your stuff doesn’t just end up with whoever got hold of it first, or worse, in the trash.

EVERYBODY dies. Just tell your kids not to be afraid. Teach them the brighter side of it all, and who knows, maybe they’ll even look forward to “meeting Jesus” or whatever it is you’ve told them about.