Facebook Harms American Marriages, Survey Suggests

People cheat not facebook... It's our own hearts that screw us up sometimes we look for a feeling without thinking of the choice we made. Love is a choice that produces feelings not a feeling. It's a choice we make to stick through the good and bad and sometimes before we make that choice we deep down know it's the wrong choice but the feeling of it keeps us stuck...

I found out my husband was gay. I googled his username and found him on a social networking site looking for a male to have a discreet relationship with. Needless to say, the marriage was over from that moment on.

Let's see... my ex husband cheated before Facebook... AOL... cell phones were just barely in use (that's how he got caught, cell phone bill). So, are cellphones the reason marriages break up?

Gen. Stonewall Jackson said," If I thought my coat new what I was going to do, I would cast it to the Ground."
I fear we as a people are about as STUPID AS A BOX OF ROCKS! You may seem alone as you use the commputer, but you are not. I hope this doesn't make anybody mad. I do hope it helps SOMEBODY remember, "THAT LOOSE LIPS, SINK SHIPS!

Thanks:

steve

The networking is nice. The reality is that some of us spend way too much time in the cyber world and not enough in the real world with our real friends. FB is nice, but do you really think you have over 20 real friends? I think we would all be better with less cyber life and more real life with the ones we love and the one's that love us. Less is sometimes more. What do you think?

Facebook is NOT the cause of infidelity. It is just the tool that some unhappy people choose to use to destroy their relationships. If Facebook didn't exist, they'd find another way. Millions of people manage to use Facebook without hurting anyone.

Make sure you know whom your talking with so many liars on here and users do not let it break up your marriage over something stupid.

Marriages that are healthy are not threatened by facebook. Bottom line: unhappy spouses are a threat to marriage. And both spouses have responsibility in the breakdown of any particular marriage.

Technology does not ruin marriages, people ruin marriages! It just makes it easier for one to get caught!

Think about it: 50 %, roughly, break up. Now, take the 50% that do not break up. Some of those marriages stay together because it's too expensive to break up. Some stay together because of the kids. Some stay together because of religious conviction or pressure. There are more reasons than the three I mentioned, that marriages stay in tact, even when very unhappy for one or both spouses. How many couples that are sticking with marriage do so because the marriage is a GOOD one? Not very many. My theory is people choose the wrong people and marry for the wrong reasons and this is why so many unhappy people go outside the marriage for solace and company. It should be more difficult to get married.

Another thing: there are many promises and vows broken in marriage besides fidelity. They are just as important as faithfulness in sex and romance.

Het Tre, sounds like you really got around with all your Ex's you claim to have.Bet most of their names were John, huh? Facebook this

HEY - why tempt fate?
Don't even start a facebook account.
WHAT do you need it for anyhow? TO waste more time?
GEEZ PEOPLE!!! Let's face the uncomfortable truth...unless you have something that you're selling, to make a living and to make big bucks,
why the hell do you need facebook or twitter or myspace or any of that collossal wastage of time on the internet.
Lord knows I don't waste any of my valuable time contributing to discussions on the internet...hee hee hee!

Thinking with the little brain is hard-wired in men!

Facebook harms marriages? I don't think it is facebook, I think it is the spouse who can't seem to remember they are married. I have been on facebook for 4 years, reconnected with high school friends, family I haven't seen or heard from in years and even old flames. I have not once thought about cheating on my husband of 22 years. Why should facebook get a bad wrap? No one cheats if they don't want to regardless of who you connect with, on facebook or elsewhere. Take responsibility for your own actions and don't dump them on someome/something else. That should be the motto for 2010.

Face book brings together friends & family from around the world to share photo's, event's, the moment's joyful as well as those frustrating in our daily lives. It reunites lost relationship's of all kinds. It's a tool that can be used by anyone with an email address and access to a computer or phone that that also has internet capabilities. There's so many reason's people cheat. Not all cheater's are bad people but cheating always makes people look bad. remember there are three sides to every cheating tale. Well, actually four. But you catch my drift? People have been messing around/cheating since man has been on this planet. And not once a cheater always a cheater either. But those who seem to always be cheating also always are looking for happiness they seem to never honestly find. A good person cheating doesn't like how they feel inside about it. Cheating hurts alot more than the non-cheating spouse. We all need to be more responsible about how our actions affect other's. Children are the worst victims because they are the innocent one's. You can't blame face book for peoples action's. If you want to look at it like that then, Craig's list and Adult Friend Finder's as someone mentioned above is just as bad. But really I look @ it this way. If we took the time to know ourselves really in every way then we would know what we like, dislike, need, desire, aspire to be. Then if we go out with this great knowledge of OURSELVES first and look for a mate to hook up with. And didn't just hook up with the first thing that came along that put out. And we instead paid close attention to the details about another person like their family, where they came from, how they interact with other's, their honesty, their Empathy for other's, their past relationships (people who go on & on about how bad, & horrible their last partner was to them, & even the one before that one too -and who doesn't have any "REAL" friends of the opposite SEX, should scream out "WARNING, WARNING, WARNING") their relationship's at work, play, their standings in their community. People are usually always on their best behavior the first 6 months so take that into consideration as well. If we put some effort into ourselves first before we dare go out and look for someone to compliment our lifestyle (not complicate it) first. Then take a little time and not be so desperate in the "picking friends and lover's job. We would weed out a lot of toads we shouldn't be kissing and divorce attorney's would be in the unemployment lines. It would cure a lot of what ail's this world. As I always say.....the best revenge is living WELL!!!!!!!!!!! If you catch your partner cheating "online" and can't think of a thing you are doing to maybe fuel those actions....well then, I would think face book, or Craigs list did you a favor. You can't find the right one out there for you if you're busy wasting your life with the wrong one! Life is way too short.

Just remember that.
Miss Kitty

RayRay,
I think you hit the nail on the head. There is only one thing that I dissagree with in all of this. And that is the terms that we use to describe people who are not faithful to their marriage partner. I beleive the word cheating is the wrong way to refer to people who are unfaithful. In my opinion, people who are unfaithful should be referred to as people with bad character.

They cannot be trusted to enter into a relationship, especially where kids may involved. Because lots of people stand to get hurt.

And because of that, if you are dating someone that you anticipate on marrying, then, the best thing would be to turn them loose on the social sites like facebook, where you get to find out what they really are about.

The better thing to do early on, would be to setup a sting operation, to bring out the true character in that person, and make your decision based on what you find. Thus avoiding a long life of misery.

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Dennis,PI

Girls, just get a set of DD's and all your man problems will be over! Don't let yourselves get so damn frumpy and fat!

Thank you, Dennis!! Beautifully said and right on!!

please, a lot of these guys are like kids in a candy shop; growing up, they never had a date, let alone a second glance, then all of a sudden, women are throwing themselves at them left and right...then they think, wow, what have i been missing!....honestly, human nature is a tricky thing; nothing is sacred today...when the opportunity presents itself on fb or wherever, i think most would jump on it! maybe out of curiosity at first...then when they bite, look out!.... i just don't trust any guy on a pc...i mean, how many stupid men actually think a young hot 20 yr old that is im'ing them is for real!...when's the last time you looked in the mirror, buddy? do you really think she's after your hot, paunchy 50 yr old body?? lol...give me a break!

Facebook doesn't harm marriages; baggage and intimacy problems harm marriages. Cheating and divorce are practically encouraged; people go into marriages with an attitude that if something happens, just divorce and move onto the next person. If you actually work at your relationships and aren't just after sex or succumbing to societal pressure, Facebook won't do squat. Good luck, folks. Y'all seem to need it.