How to 'Memorialize' the Facebook Pages of the Recently Deceased

Using a touching personal anecdote, Facebook employee Max Kelly blogged about the site's new 'memorializing' feature, which allows people to share memories, and ensures the privacy of both the deceased and his or her family. Shortly after starting at Facebook, Kelly's best friend and co-worker died in a bicycling accident four years ago. At the time, Facebook was a small community of employees, which meant the death took a large toll on each person. Kelly writes in the post that sharing memories helped everyone through the event. "It was a big blow to me personally, but it also was difficult for everyone at Facebook," he says. "As a company, we shared our grief, and for many people it was their first interaction with death."
But questions arose from this death, too. Like, what will happen to this person's Facebook profile? From there, Kelly and others began developing the idea of "memorializing" profiles in order to let people share their memories of the deceased.
According to CNET News, in order to 'memorialize' a profile, a user must prove that he or she had a relationship with the departed person, which can be done by providing the person's e-mail address or date of birth. Next, you'll need to send Facebook a link to a news article or obituary confirming the death. This is necessary, presumably, to discourage pranksters from 'memorializing' still-living friends.
Once this is confirmed, personal information, like telephone numbers, will be removed, and the profile will be hidden from anyone that isn't a confirmed friend. This way, only those close to the deceased can visit the page and write on his or her wall. To protect against hackers, the profile will be locked from all log-ins, too.
While it might not know how to design a homepage, Facebook definitely made the right call here. We here at Switched have at least two recently deceased friends whose Facebook pages are still up, and part of the grieving process definitely involved posting personal memories, anecdotes and other tributes on our late friends' Facebook walls.
It's comforting to know our profile will be maintained once we've gone to the other side. Best of all, we won't have to worry about those stupid application requests. [From: The Facebook Blog and CNET News, via Boing Boing]






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Subscribe to commentsJohnOct 28th 2009 11:05AM
This feature is long overdue. Because I grea up on computers and now in my late 20's, believe it or not we have lost almost a dozen classmates and close friends... this is a great way for us to heal and support eachother all over the world .... on a side note. I had a friend pass away in a motorcycle accident last year, and he loved life and having friends spending time together, and through facebook, the 500+ who attended his services were able to reconnect with old HS friends we havent seen, and we made new friends. RIP and God bless the ones we have lost .... we miss u all...
Surfinintofino7Oct 28th 2009 11:57AM
So this is what the world has come to? You have to go on a persons facebook to share memories of the past ..isn't that generally what gets done at a funeral? society is screwed up big time.
HollyOct 29th 2009 12:55PM
no but it's a nice thing to some to be able to do after the funeral if they havn't forgotten about them
jackieOct 28th 2009 1:03PM
my friend passed away almost 2 years ago and his page is still up... i didnt kno they erase them..
rw4now321Oct 29th 2009 1:00AM
this is so messed up...people need to get a life beyond the internet. you wanna talk to people? call them! you wanna grieve about a death? do it alone or with the people you love not with some pathetic internet website! this is so ridiculous and has nothing to do with people getting over personal deaths its out of control.......GET A LIFE FACEBOOK PEOPLE QUIT BEING COWARDS
HollyOct 29th 2009 12:56PM
Not everyone is in the same state as the cemetery. No body said to grieve only on face book I don't think that's fair of you to generalize and say. Hopefully when you or someone you love passes on, nobody has this mentality.
AGreenButterflyOct 11th 2010 10:06PM
When my daughter passed away (November 24, 2006), Facebook was still too new for all her friends to have been added as her Facebook Friends. This placed an extra grief on her friends and family who later joined Facebook but were unable to access her memorialized profile.
I feel that it has been an imposition on loved ones to find one of my deceased daughter's Facebook friends and ask for their login information in order to view her profile. Even I, her mother, was locked out of viewing her profile. After many emails with Facebook's governing body, I was only able to view it with one of her friend's login information. I feel that this is unfair and unwarranted. Many people join Facebook daily. Many never had the opportunity to visit their deceased relative's/friend's profile and wish to do so without all the restrictions set in place by Facebook policy.
Her Facebook profile is a statement of her personality, a glimpse of what she felt was important to share with her friends and family. Some of us need to continue viewing, posting on the wall of, sending messages to, and tagging photos of our deceased relatives and friends. Facebook has disabled this portion of the grieving process for those of us who are locked out.