Last year we wrote about some online discontent about Facebook's content policies. The site was
deleting some pictures of women breastfeeding, labeling them as obscene and, in the process, making many so-called lactivists rather irritated. A Facebook protest group was created but, after another recent round of photo deletions, the offended users
took their protests to the street, gathering outside of the Facebook offices over this past weekend.
Should breastfeeding pictures be allowed on Facebook?| Yes | 8136 (65.2%) |
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| No | 3548 (28.4%) |
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| I don't know | 790 (6.3%) |
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The photos range from rather tame to some that might make some viewers uncomfortable, largely thanks to the exposure of nipples, but many of the supposedly deleted photos (
collected here if you care to see) show virtually nothing at all -- just mothers holding their children. So, is Facebook over-reacting when it removes these pictures, or is it doing the right thing in trying to keep its site clean? [From:
The Washington Post]
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Subscribe to commentstese42sJan 5th 2009 3:04AM
I wouldn't put it in those words, but you are deffinitely right.
SanityJan 5th 2009 3:15AM
Based on the argument that this is a natural act, should I be allowed to post pictures of myself taking a dump? After all, everyone does it, havn't you ever taken a dump? Or perhaps having sex, after all isn't that a natural and beautiful act?
Why are the people who still have morals allowing themselves to be pushed around by those who have become to calloused to know when they have become delusional? Call me a puritan or a prude if you want, I think I can take it.
brittanyJan 5th 2009 4:37AM
Sex is also a beautiful and wonderful thing. It was also designed for the purpose of children, not simply enjoyment. Yet many people get sexually excited when they see people having sex (porn). And there are some people that do not want to see it and think it should be a special moment between two people.
Bowel movements are natural and some people get off on that and some people (most people) do not want to see it.
Death and birth are natural and there are people that again get off and are disgusted by those.
Yes breastfeeding is for your child, but it does not mean that people won't think that a breast is still sexually arousing. Again, some people get off on that and some people think it should be a private moment.
Yes the people that get off on all of these NATURAL things are pervs, but that doesn't mean that they are not there.
Do you think your child would want that picture up? Do you think your husband would want that picture up? I talked to my man about this and he said he would never want me to expose myself and our child the way these mothers are.
Yes it is beautiful but so is sex. There are beautiful artistic ways to show breastfeeding and there are beautiful artistic ways to show sex. Both relationships with people you love. And then there are inappropriate and frankly gross ways to display these things. Like porn and the things that these mothers are showing and the ways they are showing them.
There is a time and a place for everything and a way to do everything privetely and with class and modesty.
And about the 'teen sluts' on these sites, just because they expose themselves does not mean that it is acceptable. There are just as many people that are disgusted by their actions as there are that are aroused by them.
BeverlyJan 5th 2009 7:33PM
I feel like just as that woman felt she could put a picture of herself breast feeding at the same time facebook has a right to take it off because its their website. I can understand everyones point of view. As much as I don't care to see a woman breast feeding in public I have to put my feelings aside and say get over it people are going to do what they want whether it offends people or not.
celesteJan 5th 2009 4:38AM
So, I don't understand,you people say that you don't want to see it and that the mother should keep it at home. So,are you saying that woman with children who are breastfeeding should not leave their homes with the child? They should be confined in their homes for AT LEAST 6 months? People,mothers don't go outside and breastfeed just to be seen or to upset you,they go outside because they're going crazy from being in the house all of the time and they need to see other people in a different place ie,a restaurant or coffee shop. While they're out,the baby is bound to get hungry at some point.What,are the woman they suppose to go straight home no matter what else they are doing with a screaming baby and wait until they are through their front door before mom is allowed to feed her hungry baby?
America is so sick and stupid with their fears of seeing a working breast. I have NEVER been uncomfortable or disgusted by a woman doing the most natural thing with her breast and her baby. Maybe if you prudes weren't so screwed up with what the human body is about you would stop being to bothered by it. I don't have a child,yet,but when I do I will indeed be breastfeeding while I am out with my baby.
Now,on another note,it does freak me out a little to see a 4 year old being breastfed. I know that this,too,is quite normal and all depends on the mother and child (also it is very healthy for both mother and child. The child has the best chance at a good immune system and high intelligence and mom has lowered her chances even further for breast cancer),but,since the child is old enough to eat solid foods and to be able to understand that they will have to wait to be breastfed,I think that, as the child gets older then,yes,maybe the breastfeeding should be kept more private. There's just something about seeing a child who can have a conversation with you and has a mostly full set of teeth sucking on a breast. I know it's still normal and fine,but it still looks a little bit creepy.No offense to anyone
CarlaJan 5th 2009 4:27AM
I breastfed my daughter until she was around 2 and 1/2 years old. I didn't flaunt the fact in public but was discreet and obviously not embarrassed - just respectful of others. Any mother who breastfeeds for a good length of time loses any shyness and takes care of business. Breastfeeding is a very bonding experience and I loved it. However, I can't understand the need to broadcast it on a website. Many of the pictures were absolutely cute and brought back fond memories. Others were--interesting to say the least. I don't need to half a woman's body, see her undressed to the waist, etc. to understand she's breastfeeding her child. Do that in your home. You wouldn't take off your entire blouse in public would you? Well the Internet is public. Most people - even those of us who have had the exact same experience are not wanting to see half your body totally exposed. I remember the feelings I had when breastfeeding my daughter, and I too felt proud and happy and contented....but the whole world doesn't care for goodness sakes. You aren't the first and you won't be the last women to have this wonderful experience. Posting it online is questionable. For what reason? Again, some of the pics were just too cute - many others were just flat out strange. Ladies - keep it in the family, the world doesn't care to see you naked on facebook.
TifflesJan 5th 2009 5:17AM
Breastfeeding is a choice - I get it. Wether it's done on Facebook, at a restuarant or in church, I will say something if the mother doesn't make some attempt to cover herself while breastfeeding. Did I mention that I'm a woman too? There are ways to discreetly do this in public without making a big deal about it. People have being this for millions of years i know, but this isn't the stone age & we do wear clothes now. And just for the record, I don't appreciate going anywhere in public & having to answer my own childrens questions about why some women are half naked at Walmart. Not everybody wants to see what other people look like naked. They make shirts & pants in various sizes; in other words -- Put some clothes on!!
SuzanneJan 5th 2009 5:28AM
About 31 years ago I was breastfeeding my daughter. One day when we were out I chose a really remote corner in the furniture departmet in a store at a mall. About 15 minutes in (almost done nursing) I was aproched by a sales lady who told me 'That type of behavor isn't condoned here!' I saw NO customers and had a blanket that covered everything......My daughters ALL breastfeed their babies.....I see not much has changed! Human milk is for human babies.....cows milk is for calves!
Tony DJan 5th 2009 5:29AM
I've been in restaurants and would see a woman breast feeding. I gave them the respect by not looking at them or staring. They have all have covered them selves with a blanket and you can't really see anything. I would rather explain to my grandkids, that it's a natural thing for mothers to do. Much better then trying to explain why someone is standing on the interstate looking at traffic peeing. Get a grip!!!!!! But lady's please when your visiting someone. Please take your child in the other room and change there diapers. thank you and have a great day. :)
jeanJan 5th 2009 5:49AM
Well, how many people are going to run around covering up everything (animal) that is breastfeeding their litter? I don't think anyone will. It is natural for a mother if she chooses to breast feed her child. There are proper ways to do this. Might I say modesty is amongst those things money can't buy. So if you do it appropriately thing there is nothing wrong with it. Question is how modest are you?
K.Jan 5th 2009 12:42PM
I don't care if you breast feed or not. I don't care if you post pictures or not. I don't know why it would be anyones intro picture though, whatever. I'm sure I'll get slammed but I've never been able to wrap my mind around a 4 year old still nursing. Or......even still using a bottle.
JanJan 6th 2009 9:44PM
My 5 children are all grown now, but I would have given anything to have be able to breastfeed my kids.I wasn't able to Did They make bottles when most of you goody-two-shoes puratins were babies. NO? Maybe they should have let you starve.
if I had been able to breast feed my babies I would have done it when the baby wanted to eat. Or would YOU rather hear a baby scream out of hunger.
And you people don't have to look (or gawk)
RIBSJan 15th 2009 1:01PM
I think that the term "COMMON DECENCY" should be applied here. While I understand women have been breastfeeding for many years, it has only been in recent years that a certain element has formed to make the practice a public one. One that had in the past been a tender sharing moment between Mother and child, has been turned into a "Don't step on my rights to expose you to my breasts, you Mother hating basta*ds!" by a group of people who think my kids, my family and myself want to share in your "tender moments" something that is "so natural". Well pooping is natural too, but I don't want an audience for that either! I have two sister in laws who have had 12 kids between them, not either of them ever thought to pop out a breast to feed their kids in front of me (thank you ladies!). Once, one of them asked if I minded, and she had a large towel draped over her shoulder and the baby snuggled in, but I saw NOTHING and
NO, I didn't mind! I think women need to remember, we as a population, have our own issues to contend with and have some children we don't want being exposed to their nudity, no matter how "natural" it is! As a foster parent to children with special needs and an Aunt to 12 young kids, just because kids know about something, doesn't mean they need to see it out and about in PUBLIC! I am totally okay with women DISCREETLY breastfeeding their children, and NOT using it as an opportunity to expose themselves in public and playing the "natural" angle. Some how it smacks of playing the "race card"! So if you have those kinds of pictures posted where my kids or myself can see those "personal and natural photos", then I have a problem with that. If you have them posted on your website, where its PRIVATE and shared only with those who are on your list, thats YOUR business. But having a 15 yo boy who has been exposed to pornography online by his older brothers, and who has a lack of self control being able to access your pics is not cool by me! And what is wrong with being as discreet about that as you would about your toilet habits or sexual habits? Why is it this must be done PUBLICLY and so OPENLY as to draw attention to yourself and your private matters? What was a beautiful thing is being made ugly by those who have no common sence and I resent having to play moral compass to those lacking understanding of what they are exposing me to and my family! No one is saying go hide in the bathroom, or locked away, but for crying out loud, can you not DISCREETLY feed your child without making it a TOWN HALL throw down? I know, even when I am out and about in restaurants, I am not wanting all eyes on me while I eat or feed the kids, why should breastfeeding be ANY different? Why do breastfeeding Moms want to be able to flop out their breasts in public and claim it is "something natural and beautiful" (it is to you!) that WE ALL NEED TO PARTICIPATE in? Try private and personal!
Pam MurrayJan 26th 2009 1:04PM
Americans are really ridiculous. This is a nonissue. Yes, breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world but it should be kept in its proper place. If you need to feed you infant, do so. The whole did not ask to and does not need too see you breastfeeding your kid. Everything has its proper place. Modesty wins every time over exhibitionism.
mismatchedhairJan 27th 2009 7:52PM
And yet, if some barely-legal girl were to post pictures of herself in a teeny tiny string bikini, very obviously "cold", sporting severe camel toe, and giving the camera "sultry bedroom eyes", no one would complain at all.
hyperchica11096Feb 6th 2009 3:29PM
I don't think there is a reason to even want to put that on their. I think it is disturbing if a 14 year old child is looking at people pictures and then that pops up. I dont see a reaon you would want someone to see your breast on the internet anyway..........