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Wow, Dan...your comments sound totally like those of either a total misogynist (yes, please do take time to look that up)or the rantings of someone who wants badly out of the closet, if you catch my meaning. Either way, as a health care professional I strongly suggest you seek mental health counseling to deal with your very obvious issues. You can only be doing yourself and any woman who has to deal with you a great favor. I hope you don't have sons, because they certainly don't need to model this kind of attitude toward an entire gender!

For all the women with big breasts get and ENELL sports bra!! I'm a 34DD, and my breast don't move AT ALL in these!! Get your measurements from enell.com, and then search on ebay. I get mine for around 34 bucks on there!! I have 3 and they are a godsend!!

Amanda,

In regards to your post below:

"Amanda says:
Dale,

I have to agree with you although my husband says that my 32 DD's are a little too big for his tastes and he's 49 years old. I myself am 27. And to the woman who is staying with her cheating bastard husband because of her beliefs, give me a break. I don't believe in divorce either but if my man ever did that to me, I wouldn't think twice before going to the attorney and I was raised Catholic."


AMANDA.....

I'm glad that you would divorce a cheating husband, nevermind one who has cheated repeatedly for 30 plus years, as the original poster sadly stated. On a scale of 1 to 10, to be cheated on,nevermind repeatedly for years deserves an "11" it's certainly the ultimate show of disrepect. Yet, I hate to say, though no where near comparison, your husband is also direspecting you, but you are fortunately on the low end of the scale (at this time).
I am about 99% positive that the original poster, married for 31 years to a habitual cheater was once also on the low end of that same scale, as I'm sure she didn't marry him knowing full well he was a philandering louse. As in any relationship, the level of disrespect with any emotional and physical abuse starts SLOWLY and insiduosly. The abusing partner slowly begins to talk to you poorly, either with name calling and or put downs and knocks to your being, head games etc. This is emotional abuse, just as bad and sometimes also worse than physical abuse,...which also begins with a little slap and slowly progresses to a full blown beating, and or death, as we all know.

You state you are 27 and your husband is 49, yet he has the DISRESPECT to tell you your 32DD breasts are a "little too big for his tastes." And the point of telling you that is what??....to hurt you, knock you down, chip away at you with some self- doubt which he certainly wants you to have. Why?

Because he probably wakes up every day thanking God for you and wondering what he did to get so lucky that at almost 50 YEARS OLD, he got myself a youthful wife of 27 years old and around his buddies and just out and about he's also walks around like a proud peacock. Yet, your insecure, aging husband doesn't want to let you in on that little secret of his, being he's not a guy who is secure in his manhood even though he comes off like who he thinks he is even though HE knows it's the front he puts on as a cover for his own insecurities, and lack of selfworth. He does this to make himself feel superior due to his backwards thinking which results from his insecure ego.

People who are secure in themselves and truly do have self-worth and esteem DO NOT knock down someone else, they don't need to as a way to feel better about themselves,....especially the person they are married to and love!
For your husband to say that to you about your breasts.....is demeaning and disrespectful to you as a woman, nevermind his wife (a wife 22 years his junior no less). I would guess to say if a 100 men were polled and asked about your 32DD breasts,....99.9% of them would think they are probably one of your better assets if not the best (as your husband truly also believes. Yet, his insecurities make him feel he needs to keep you in check (especially if he is also a man of above average wealth/status), as what man nevermind one almost 50 years old and technically old enough to be your FATHER...and maybe with a bit of $$ would really want to think that the 27 year old wife he hooked. only or partly married him for the $$, security or because deepdown she was looking for a father figure??????
........he wants to believe as anyone would that you love him and married him for his virile maturity and life experience. To put it bluntly, your 32DD breasts are an extra bonus to go along with the young wife he somehow landed. Yet, especially if you were happy with your breasts, your insecure husband had to knock you down a few pegs,....wouldn't want you to CONTINUE to think you are the hot, self-confident woman you probably once thought of yourself (till your so-called husband denied you his stamp of approval)!

The bottom line is: People will talk to you and treat you ONLY how YOU ALLOW THEM TO TREAT YOU!

Your husband has to truly be a nitwit to make that statement and lacks an ouce of charm, or his goal was purely to hurt you and knock you down a bit.
The older he gets the more insecure he will become and the more he will feel the need to knock you down a few more pegs...to make himself feel better about his old, aging self.

and one day....you may just end up just like that poor woman married for 31 years to a habitual cheating louse for a husband....lacking any self-worth of self-esteem you once had to stand up for YOURSELF and NOT TOLERATE disrectful, hurtful behavior and actions.
WHY? Because slowly and insiduously your husband will chip and peck away at all the self worth and self esteem you believe you have for yourself and just like the woman who stays with her cheating husband for over 3 decades,.......
you'll convince yourself that divorce isn't an option for some reason or another.

Afterall,..why whould your husband stop putting down and knocking you down in some little way here and there as time goes by,.....he gets off on it and you allow him to do this to you?
This is just the begining....your breasts are FINE,...women pay big bucks to get what GOD has naturally given to you. LOVE DOESN'T HURT YOU.
Don't let your insecure, twisted dominating ego and severely flawed character of a husband put you and your body and the assets GOD gave you down.

People who emotional abuse others, as well as physical abusers, will act like a kid in a candy store.....left alone with no one to reign him in and put a stop to his gluttony, and not tolerate it........ eventually, he'll end up eating all the candy in the store,....slowly but surely.

Tolerate him putting you down like this and I guarantee he will keep doing it, till one day you'll just may think he is right. Twisted isn't it?
He is your husband, the man who vowed to love, honor and cherish you........his comment regarding your 32DD breasts GOD gave and many women WISH they had and or go out and buy them...IS IN NO WAY HONORING YOU, CHERISHING YOU,....and lastly LOVING YOU!
He has the problem,.....not you. Misery loves company,....and unfortunately, it's alive and well in your marriage,..don't KEEP HIM COMPANY. He needs fixing, not you.

P.S.
I'm sure to make such a comment to you, his WIFE, no less......your husband must be an alomost 50 year old GREEK GOD, with the body of Adonnis... a true, chisled masterpiece of MAN, who is well endowed and can go the distance, nevermind rise to the occassion....for his youthful, glowing 27 year old wife....... ??????

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Your insecure, insensitive, selfish husband wants you all to himself, doesn't want you to bounce out of bed one morning, while he's still lying in it due to his arthritis, articial hip replacement, cardiac, prostate problems etc, etc. that usually accompanies old age and leave him for a newer, faster model.

LOVE DOESN'T HURT......!! STICK UP FOR YOURSELF and DO NOT TOLERATE DISRESPECT and his dysfunctional, insecure.......and old self (compared to you,...at 27)!!!

These men waxing poetic about breasts are cracking me up--I thought this was a piece about bras! My fiance once told me I had the type of breasts men wrote sonnets about. It seemed excessive praise at the time, but it would appear that there are indeed men who adore breasts enough to write poems about them. I'm still waiting for mine... his hands haven't been free for some time...

As a man speaking, I think the bra is fine if it makes the woman feel comfortable physically and psychologiclly. And yes God did make breast for the woman to nurture but he also said in Psalm of Solomon that "thy breast shall satisfy thee at all times" and refers to them as "twin hills of beauty" So he put them there for our enjoyment as well..Get used to it!

tjp says:
I myself cannot stand women; and unfortunately I am straight. They are hypocrites who while reride men all the time, want men.

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It is indeed unfortunate, tjp, with so many lovely and desirable gay men out there, that you waste your sparkling personality on the likes of us. I suppose you mean that we "deride" men all the time, though one good ride often leads to another...

melissa says:
any ladies have any other suggestions for fuller cup bras? i really like the demi's at victorias secret but i cant wear them because if i bend down to pick something up, they fall right out the top. and full coverage is of course sensible but not always the sexiest...

Melissa,

I don't know if it's the best solution in the world for you, but have you tried petals? They're skin-toned, band-aid-like, flower shaped patches that you put over the front of your breasts and they stick there. Later, you can peel them off wash them and reuse them. They probably won't keep you from falling out of your bra, but at least if you do fall out, you'll still be covered. Like I said, just a thought, I don't know if it's the best option, but at least it's an option.

Theresa says:
Dale,

I thought your comments were full of kindness and great advice. I do not understand why you have yet to find your Miss Right. Just remember that when you finally do find each other, you will both cherish each other and what you have all the more. I wish you the best!

p.s. I'm so sorry about your best friend. May she rest in peace.

Theresa,

Thanks EVER so much for your kind words!! You sound like a wonderful person, someone I'm pretty sure I'd love to get to know and hang out with. (-: As for my advice, I care. Simple as that, and I hope that I'm helping someone along the way.
I had a Miss Right a few years ago. We were perfect for each other (except that she liked the Rolling Stones better than the Beatles and XTC). After about 7 years of my loyalty to her, she started cheating on me. As soon as I found out, I dropped her. About a year later, she dropped him! Lol.
I wish you all the best, too!! (-:
Thanks for the sympathy for Rae. She only turned 39 2.5 months before she died.

jc carr says:
Gosh Dale, You seem to be on this site commenting about everything and bashing everyone. Don't you have anything better to do? You seem to like women so much. Go find one and get off the internet. This is about bras and women. We don't need your commentary. What the hell would you know anyway?

JC Carr,

Who did I bash, other abusive men and maybe a little bit of the women that won't leave them.
Yeah, I DO have lots of things to do, but, to me, trying to help someone is more important.
Women aren't falling out of the trees, y'know! Most of them are either spoken for or aren't interested in taking the time to get to know me. Oh, well...their loss! I've been drumming on stage in my band since the `80's and we pack the house anytime we play. Do you know how many dates it's gotten me? NONE!! In the meantime, all the women go after my guitarist who's married and only uses the women at gigs for sex!! Imagine that!! One quick boff backstage and he never wants to see them again, but they all line up to see him backstage again the next time we play there!!
The reason I know so much about bras and breasts is because a few years ago, I was trying to produce a breast cancer benefit album and, in the process, I did a lot of research on breasts and bras. By the way, did you know that underwires are bad for your breasts?
Like I said, I care.

Dr. Rad,

I agree! When I look at a woman I've never met before, I look at her eyes! Usually they're VERY pretty, and, if I'm lucky, I get to see inside of her heart and her soul, that way, too!

Carla,

Thanks for the compliments. (-: I AM a very nice, or at least DO try to be, but, as you can see, others see it as being nasty.
I hope you DO meet Mr. Right, VERY soon! I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, I guess. I seem to belong on the Island of Misfit Toys. I'm 6' 9" and prefer to keep my hair long. Most women don't seem to like long hair these days. I guess they don't like guys as tall as me either.
I'm not judging women for going after bad guys, I've seen it DOZENS of times!! I lost the best friend I've ever had about 2 years ago to a guy that lies to her, abuses her, won't allow her to have any male friends and is VERY controlling and insanely jealous. Her self-esteem is so low that, as incredibly sweet and pretty as she is, she thinks that she might as well stay with him, because the next guy she might hook up with will be even worse!! She was raped by her neighbor shortly after she met her "boyfriend" and he accused HER of cheating on him with the rapist!!!! As you can see, he's EVERY girl's dream guy!! (Yeah, right!!)

Annabelle says:
I am a 34DDD size. I am not a large woman. My size bra is very hard to find. Why do manufacturers thank you have to be a 36, 38, 40 and up to wear a DDD size. My breasts are very heavy as I have fibrocystic breast disease. I need a wide strap at the shoulders and they are very difficult to find. Help!!!!!!!!!

Annabelle,

Have you ever tried a Spanx bra? I'm not sure of how supportive they are, but they seem very strong and the straps are wide, very soft and very stretchable, because the entire bra is made of the same material as pantyhose, but it's much thicker. You can pull it and shape it to fit you any way you want to. And, instead of snapping it on like a normal bra, you actually step into it and pull it up to where you want it. You get out of it just the opposite way. I hope this helps. Barenecessities.com has them.

It's amazing that most of you see women as sexual beings only. You guys are sad.

For you ladies that complain about a good sports bra, Jcpenney's has two brands in their catalog and onlie that you should try, one is called Goddess, and the other is Glamorise. These brands have been around for years and i know they work, because I am in the same boat you are in.

Hey yourpoconohom!
I make milk! What's your super power?

tjp says:
I myself cannot stand women; and unfortunately I am straight. They are hypocrites who while reride men all the time, want men.
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There's really no need to repress your homosexuality. Let it out, tjp, I've been told that it's quite a relief to come fully out of the closet! Yes, you might have to deal with the derogatory remarks of fellow self-repressed people, but in the end, it's worth it. Now go find that man for you! And then you won't have to deal with women at all--and thankfully we won't have to deal with you either.

I'm 19 years old and have either double D's or triple D's (not quite sure yet). I wish they were bigger, to me they really aren't that big! When I stand or walk for a moderate period of time my back hurts like crazy. I don't complain too much though.

All you women with the big boobies can do me one favor..................SMOTHER ME!!

i just want to say this...i am a woman of large breasts and i thnik they serve for multiple reasons...breastfeeding ans attracting a man. i was a bartender and these babies made me alot of money and i also liked the attention and if anyone woman has the nerve to say they don't like the attention they are lieing their asses off, but sometimes we do need a break from all the attention. so sometimes guys you just need to back off.

Hey folks. Let's get a few things staight. First off, there is no god...get used to it. god is a fairy tale. Second, watching two women are fun, particularly when they are christian closet lesbians. Third, small breasts are fine, especially if they're covered in grape jelly.

I have been a D since 12 and am now a 40 DD-DDD, depending on who makes the bra, I'm 39 now. TO the girl they were saying have surgery, my only advice it to ask a doctor, some women's build doesn't tolerate LARGE breast as well as others and if you have insurance and your doctor says you need it, most insurance will now cover it.
Now about bras, I found a good bra quite by chance, it is called a Posture Bra by Cross Your Heart. It closes up the front and has a full back to it, the straps won't slide because they also have hook and eye's on them like the front. It does not have underwire (underwire sticks some of us). I know it goes to DDD and I believe it goes much bigger. But if you look for it make sure it says Posture and not Sport. The Sport Bra is made similar but does not have the support the posture has. Wally world carried it up until a couple of months ago, now I'm not sure who has it on the shelf.

Niki says:
I have been a D since 12 and am now a 40 DD-DDD, depending on who makes the bra, I'm 39 now. TO the girl they were saying have surgery, my only advice it to ask a doctor, some women's build doesn't tolerate LARGE breast as well as others and if you have insurance and your doctor says you need it, most insurance will now cover it.

Niki,

WOW!! A D-cup since you were 12???? When did they start growing? I've heard of a few girls that actually started growing breasts when they were about 3 years old. Were you one of them? Now that I think of it, I used to know someone that was at least a D when she was 13. But, the poor thing had her period once a week, and sometimes they are so heavy she passes out from severe loss of blood. )-:
As for the surgery, I completely agree with you!!!! Ask a Dr. before you make ANY plans for such an operation. And, as I said before, if they tell you you can get one before you're in your early 20's, they aren't the right Dr. for you, or much of anyone else, for that matter.

I use to be a DD and I had some back problems. Had a cervical fusion and still had problems. So I went in to see my OB/GYN she sent me to a plastic surgeon got the approval from my ins and had a reduction, OMG the best thing I have ever had done.

I suggest the LaMystere Reanassce Dream bra. I am a 36 G so finding a good bra that is both comfortable, supportive, and pretty was hard until I found this bra. Only drawback is that they are expensive, which all bras my size are but these are actually worth it.

My mother is well endowed and spent her first 70 years in the wrong bra sizes. After visiting a local corsetiere, shewas finally fitted correctly. She said she still feels like new woman even 6 years later! When she visits, she'll make it a point to be refitted with Tina (Tina's Closet, Lisle IL) who will also alter a bra purchased there if one is very close but not perfect for you. As for me being a 32C, Victoria's Secret isn't an option as the smallest they carry is a 34. Why is that? I know alot of 32's. Unless you're fitted by a pro (NOT in a department store) you could be more comfortable in one that's fitted correctly.