Five Online Daters To Avoid (2)

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I used to have a friend that went for one line dating, A nice girl turned into a slut and drunk over night, bedded everyone she met. Now that was hard up.

I met the woman of my dreams from hotornot, in person, and she looked even better (hard to believe) in person than in her picture.

I have been on one of the popular sites for awhile now and dated one man for a year but things didn't work out. Sorry to say but most that I have meet in person do not look like their pictures at all. One even said he was slightly over weight. I don't mind a little extra weight because I have some and when asked I give my correct weight and update my pictures monthly so that there is no false expections. This man though was not a little overweight he was 300 pds and nothing like the picture. Thought he was God's gift to women. I run into a lot of men that think they are God's gift and that I should do as they say on the first date. Had 3 that proposed marriage on the first date beacuse they were getting older and didn't want to wait. However, I have meet some great guys didn't hit it off romantically but we are great friends.

I've been attempting to meet someone online, as I have a busy life and getting out isn't that easy....but let me tell you it's a joke. Ninety nine percent of the men are only in it for cheap thrills or a "friend with benefits". The talk (on their part)immediately jumps to sex, assuming i'm there for the same nefarious reasons they are. "What are you wearing?" I hear a lot. It's disheartening, because I am completely honest, in words and my profile. I nearly met a couple of men (not at the same time)who seemed pretty cool at first, but the more we chatted, the weirdness got out, and I feel grateful I caught it before I met them. So at this point, I know this online stuff isn't for me. There's just too much you can't know about the other person, especially someone who lives far from you, and I don't have time for BS.

I was online 5 yrs ago chatting on yahoo an along came my hubby, we waited 5 months before we talked on the phone,3 months later met in person,dated 4 about 6months an now he had bought me ahouse an everything i need to make me happy. Ihave to agree with people it iz hard to meet people on line. i got lucky. I have heard of people takin for granted an thats ashame.

I find that women play games online. I suppose men are guilty of the same behavior as well. I might be a rather unique male but when I look for someone online, I am looking for only one person.
The problem today is that people need to stop "shopping" for that perfect person because that perfect person doesn't exist.

I chatted for a year and a half with a guy online. I requested picture after picture and was convinced that the 10 pics that he sent of himself were true. Just days before he was to meet me in New York, I was on a dating site and saw the same pics he had sent me on the dating site. When I contacted the guy on the dating site, he said that the person had stolen his pics from his modeling comp website. I was devastated and have since quit online dating.

I'm sorry to say this...but PAMELA KLINE...are you SURE your REAL NAME isn't LaDonna? LOL I ask b/c you sound JUST like the chick living with my brother, who THINKS CALLING these other women helps THEM out---uh, what about YOUR man being the one doing the LEADING on and you STAY with him ANYWAY? You are the one that needs help----as harsh as I sound, I am telling you, he is cheatong on YOU left AND right. My brother TRYS to use MY phone number OR address for his little "flings" and though I ALWAYS say no(he stay pissed at me..lol Oh well) and ALWAYS tell the IDIOT that is his REAL girlfriend, LD, she ALWAYS goes AFTER the girls, going so far as to even put them on HER MySpace and BEFRIEND them, all the while, these women have NO respect for her---and neither do I. I KNOW this is harsh, but I can't feel sorry or RESPECT someone who does nothing about the PERSON WHO IS REALLY RESPOSIBLE for the situation. That's be YOU. Break it off and find someone else. PLEASE, learn to respect YOU a little more. Right now, you are simply what my brother refers to HIS g/f as: A back-up plan.

Yeah, I've heard ALL the horror stories but that did not deter me from marrying someone I met only after one month because I had to go with my gut feelings and of course everything he told me was the complete truth and he left his job travelled for almost 18hours(to anf fro) to be with me and now my engagement rings and wedding bands are a constant reminder that when you know someone is honest, why wait?i took a chance and I'm happy but from the start this relationship was honest, sincere, truthful and genuine so why wait after he asked me to marry him?The honeymoon is over and nothing has changed, NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!We are a great example that online dating do have happy endings!

Ok, here are some tried and true guidelines I use when looking at someone's pictures on their profile. Obviously, I only use this for women, but the same can definitely be used on men, too.

First, is it just a head shot? If so, chances are they don't want you to see what's below. People who work out and take care of their bodies often want to show it off and will include their figure in their pics. But, I don't know what's up with guys posting the no-shirt photo at the beach or in the mirror. I would caution girls that before sending him that email to consider what kind of ego you might be dealing with.

Second, can you see them in the picture, or was it taken from a distance? They might look good from afar, but up close they are far from good. This also applies to the shot of them scuba diving, sky diving or climbing a rock.

Third, was this a glam shot pic taken at a mall with heavy make up and airbrushing? I know that's not how they're going to show up for our first meeting and I usually think of one thing when I see those pics - DRAMA!

Fourth, how old is this pic? This one is sometimes tough to tell, but at times you can see the date on the picture of when it was taken. It might also just be way out of whack with the other pics on there. One has to wonder if this person still looks like they're in their mid 20's even when they put down 34 in the profile.

I know this is probably coming across as shallow, but we live in a society that places a lot of value on looks, and while they may not be everything, it sure does start things off on the right foot when you first meet them and they turn out to be a stunner.

One myth I would also address is the no pic theory. Often we think that if the girl (or guy) doesn't put a pic up there, she must obviously be unattractive. That is false false false! I've met quite a few women without pics that turned out to be hot hot hot and the reason why they didn't put a pic up there was because they were confident in their appearance and wanted to meet a guy based soley on what they wrote in their profile. It also shows the guy actually read their profile. Obviously, I'll ask for a pic or two before we meet so I know who to look for when we meet up for dinner or drinks. (that's usually the excuse I give) But just because you don't see a pic online doesn't automatically mean they are ugly.

One other thing I've noticed...living in the San Francisco bay area, many attractive women live in San Francisco and San Jose. Basically, by definition, they flock to major cities and it's not a bad idea to tailor your search to start in a nearby major city if you consider good looks to be in your must-haves.

So what works? Just some nice clear pics that shows off your great smile and figure. Not every guy wants a size 2. A catchy profile that sets you apart from the rest with maybe a sports or movie reference is also a dead ringer for me. Good luck!

Every man I have met on the internet has lied about their age. They were all at least 3 years or more older than the age stated on the internet.