Is Having an Online Wife Adultery?

I think people get too wrapped up in online games. And sometimes don't realize what is real and what is not anymore. My boyfriend and I play World of Warcraft.

To me...it's just a fun game to play with him for a couple of hours a week.
To him...it's so much more than just a game. He has obligations to his guild, attendence is taken, and he stays on there doing raids and quests for hours at time.

I don't know. I like playing the game...but I don't like getting involved in all that other stuff and meeting people on there and having so many obligations.

I have a great relationship with my boyfriend...but sometimes I think he takes these games a bit too seriously. Reading this just made me a little bit more insecure. haha.

The only thing I've learned from these stupid little tidbit stories, and the comments from men that follow them, is that too many men are idiots and jackasses and dicks that aren't evolved as human beings. The majority of men are worthless pieces of human flesh, not yet even evolved to the level of being a full-fledged human being. Men are stupid dicks and pricks.

i believe it is cheating even if your in a relationship you have no buisness on line chatting with any one of the opisiste sex just a pet peeve of mine

it is adultry. it looks like it, smells like it and feels like it

not catchin any deseases - mabey just a virus now n then n out out hangin in bars.

If she feels she is being cheated on, SHE IS BEING CHEATED ON!!! No doubt she is cooking for and cleaning up after this loser. Move on honey, there are men out there who will pay attention to the real thing!

Playing an online game, where you creat characters, in this case, a wife, is one thing. What if the husband is having cyber sex and emailing other women?? Its all fantasy in his mind and shouldn't be considered cheating. He also insists that he doesn't take time away from his relationship, he plays when she's not around. His wife is livid, feels that playing online without telling her is sneaking around and cheating, thoughts? He also creates a different persona when online, never who he really is, he's much more appealing that way, I would assume.

i left my ex because he spent all but about 4 hours a night while he was asleep online playing games. this is no way to have a relationship. thankfully i hadn't married him yet.

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You know... the Bible says, if I am not mistaken, that even fantasizing about being with someone else is adultery. You are cheating in your mind. I know that marriage counselors are okay with people using mind games to get themselves 'in the mood' as they put it, when it comes to marital intimacy, but it is still cheating, of sorts. Now, imagine all this fantasizing online that is very interactive. It is almost like going into a private chat room and doing whatever you like. The only time I think this gaming thing is not cheating, is if you and your spouse are both playing TOGETHER and each of you have your players and are interacting with each other as spouses onine. However, this is just my BIG/little opinion. Thanks...

This is without a doubt cheating. Having an on line realtionship is almost worst than a physical one. The feelings being taken away from the real life person and projected onto a fake one is worse to me than feelings for another real person. All sorts of cheating hurts, but when it involves feelings it hurts more. I would rather my boyfriend go out and have meaningless sex with someone than to fall for someone. Either one would end the relationship, but the first one would hurt less. Anyone who has time to spend 14 hours on line a day playing games or doing anything other than work or education needs to get a life. Oh wait this guy has a life, he just chooses not to live it.

Typical American marriage
Dead from the neck down
the poor man is traped in a boring dead marriage
I would bet that his wife spent most of her time watching TV even before he started the online relationship
American women need to remember why their husbands married them in the first place
SEX
But once they get the title they pop out a few kids to ensnare the victim and then
IT'S OFF TO WATCH THE TV AND SEE ya at the fridge
they gain about 50 pounds and wear sweats all day
Wise up men
The Phillipines are loaded with young dedicated THIN beautiful women begging for your attention
Stop living in a fantasy world and start living YOUR FANTASY
I DID

Use it as a tool to bring your marriage TOGETHER instead of apart. Tantalize each other, instead of a stranger you meet online...Go For It!

I spend lots of time in a chatroom and I see this happening all of the time. Lots of married people form relationships online and get very caught up in them. There's only one thing people need to remember -> The chatrooms and online identities are all just one big "mind game".

If you lost your husband/wife to online affairs, they were long gone before you ever even noticed. Now, butch up, and go get yourself a real life and for the love of God stop with the stupid whining...

Does the cyber woman know what that guy looks like??????????

Maybe she should think about doing the same. Get online find her a fake hubby,then let her real hubby in the virtual world come across her in her new 2nd life. See how he likes it. I for one would not put up with my hubby pullin this bullsh*t! Sounds like he spends more time with his fake relationship than he does with the real one. How is that innocent? You know his wife has to feel like sh*t. I would have been gone along time ago! 4 Real. There is a real human being playin that fake wife. Kick him to the curb lady. Get on with your life,find a man that prefers a warm touch of skin and not the cold touch of the keyboard!

Virtual or not, this is akin to having an "emotional affair." Look it up on the net. It's very serious, and in fact, a spouse having an emotional affair with another person is seen by some as worse than having a one-night stand.

Playing spouse to someone online is investing all of your energy into that person, obsessively, and real feelings absolutely DO develop. Nobody could possibly do that and not see their marriage suffer unless the spouse didn't give a damn. Marriage isn't just about sex. It's about having a partner and going through life together.

This all is very addictive. I cannot say what I would do in this position, but he would either get therapy and stop, or the marriage would be over. This poor woman, and other people male & female going through this, should not sit around and "wait it out." This is really serious.

i dont care for multiplayer games much

I've been an online gamer for about eight years now. None of this Warcraft stuff or sims, the play I do is all text based. It's much like writing a book, except I only write one character and other players do the rest. I enjoy it alot.

I'd be lieing if I tried to tell you that I don't feel what my characters feel, that's PART of the game. So yes, he's right when he says it's a game, but what he's omitting is that the game IS apart of us when we play. And yes, it's adicting. Very adicting. I've run Story Lines (Which is a concept and base line for other players to play off of in a group, i.e. they're an anti-terrorist group that has to take down the bad guys) many times. One of which was so adicting that people were indeed playing for days on end without stopping. One player almost lost their boyfriend over it.

I don't condemn gaming because I know what a creative outlet it can be, but in the same token, it shouldn't rule someone's life. You shouldn't stay home to play when you have people in real life who want to hang out. For those gamers who do that, you need to get help. Unplug your Internet connection for a couple of weeks and take a break. Realize what you've been missing.

To get back to the topic at hand...is it adultery? Yes.
Why? Because to think is to do. The only time that committing adultery in this way is okay, is if the other partner doesn't mind or joins in. If it's a mutual agreement.(Don't tell me that's not true according to God's law, because you know what? God's law was written by man no matter how you spin the coin.)
Should people be able to use it as a cause for divorce? Yes.
Why? Because it IS adultery and just because it's "another me" spending too much time with another someone else, when you come down to it, it's still that person spending time with the other person. When you break it down, it's still two people having an online relationship with their alternate selves which takes time away from their wives or husbands who live with them.
And NO, it's not like watching football or golfing, there is no intimacy in either of those cases, nor is either of those things as time consuming as online gaming no matter how much an obsessive or avid fan and anyone who wants to use those examples as well as being a workaholic etc is either lying to themselves about the intimacy in online gaming or has never played and wouldn't know.

If anyone wants to contend what I say, or comment back, feel free to e-mail me at: solushospes@aol.com