Is Having an Online Wife Adultery?

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Mat. 5:28

Ok I say it is just like cheating, cause he is spending time with another woman and he is hurting his wife, but that is just me. I am having truble with my husband right now though so maby im just mad at all men. Mine has been looking at pictures of naked women online as soon as i walk out the door and is not givin me the afection i need so I may just be projecting my proublems here. If anyone has any advice for me Please do tell.

i think that computers as far as talking to the opposite sex should be banned. and if you do have an affair with my husband don't call me and boast about it.

If the game partner is NOT a human, and if the husband is not shirking HIS RESPONSIBILITIES TO MARRIAGE, HOME AND FAMILY, where is the problem? Having a second spouse in a video game is NOT the same thing as doing same with an online real person! It's a GAME! It's a BREAK from real life and PRESSING responsibilities! The man ISN'T going to leave the wife to shack up with a video game! The man can't physically go to bed with the video game (only virtually); other than the common daydream of the ideal bedmate during the sex act.

His wife could do the same thing! She might have some fun with it! It's her choice! And, wifey, grow up! You are NOT going to keep him if you try to tether him to a BALL & CHAIN!

Casanova,

It would take a mind reader to CORRECTLY interpret the Bible; and, a mortal reading the mind of God is an IMPOSSIBILITY!

You read the Bible for your own personal COMFORT; kind of like having a baby blankie to cling to!

First, Trevorgrunt is wrong. Adultry is not just about intercourse, it is any type of emotional feelings or desire for someone other than your spouse.
I guess he never picked up a Bible.

Does Trevorgrunt mean that I can have oral sex with someone and it NOT be adultry just because we didn't have intercourse???

And secondly, The internet; chat rooms, gaming etc, has been responsible for many broken families and divorces.
Mine included.

Are our lives so empty that we need the "fantasy box" (computer) to make it exciting?
is it worth the consequenses to those we love?

It is so easy to get caught up in the fantasy life of those we meet online, but trust me on this one.......the grass isn't always greener.

Wouldn't it be more sensible to take what you already have and make it better, instead of spending hours on end in front of a comuter playing pretend?
Life is tough, but running from our responsibilities and our commitments are not going to make it any easier. They have a way of finding you.

I've been down this road, and paid a huge price for it, and if I could just help even just one person think twice before shutting out his/her REAL world for the fantasy on the computer, then what I went through was not in vain.

People, Love your spouses, and love your children. SPEND TIME with them, creating memories and seeking new adventures TOGETHER. Forget the fantasy world, because that is all it is, and all it ever will be.

And most importantly, PRAY, for God will hear you, guide you, and bless you, when you need it most.

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

Amen, Chris Nichols. If you want a cyber relationship, let your realtime, real life spouse go and find someone who wants the same thing. The gameplayers won't miss them.

My mother is almost 70 and she has developed an addiction to online games, especially in Pogo. She spends 12-14 hours a day online playing games and IMing her Internet "friends". It's gotten to the point where she rarely visits with family or old friends who live within a few miles of her unless she has to and she keeps the visits as short as possible. If anybody visits her, they have to try and talk to her while she's busy gaming and IMing. She won't even travel to visit her kids and grandkids unless she will have access to a computer when she gets there.

While I don't consider Ric as committing adultery, he definitely has an addiction and it's one that destroys families. How would Ric feel if the shoe was on the other foot and it was Sue who spent all her free time in a make believe world in cyber space than with him?

THIS ARTICLE IS OLD, IT'S GROWN MOSS ON IT. THE ONLY THING THAT MAY BE GOOD ABOUT AN INTERNET HUSBAND OR WIFE IS THAT IT'S EASY TO DIVORCE THEM. JUST TELL 'EM IT'S OVER, CHANGE YOUR SCREENNAME ADDRESS, AND YOU'LL NEVER HEAR FROM THEM AGAIN. POOF, OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOREVER AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO PAY ALIMONY, CHILD SUPPORT, GIVE UP YOUR HOUSE, AUTOS, AND EVERYTHING ELSE. THERE'S ONE THING THAT MAY HAPPEN THOUGH AND IT'S THAT YOUR REAL SPOUSE MAY GET SICK OF YOU HAVING AN INTERNET PARTNER AND THEY'LL DIVORCE YOU AND END UP WITH EVERYTHING YOU OWN...WHICH I HAPPEN TO THINK IS GOOD BECAUSE YOU WERE BEING UNFAITHFUL IN REAL LIFE. GET A HOBBY THAT THE TWO OF YOU ENJOY AND I DON'T MEAN SITTING ON YOUR BUTTS WATCHING TV...GET OUT, BE ACTIVE.

My soon-to-be ex-husband tried to reel in three different women by creating a fantasy life for himself online. In that world, I didn't exist and he was the perfect man and father to everyone that he talked to online. That should have been the first clue!! The first two women felt used and abused when they found out the truth from me. The third one doesn't believe him and stuck with him. That's when I got rid of him. Maybe one day she'll get a clue but I doubt it.

i have a 9 yr old niece who's parents met on the computer...............just saying.

hey Chantelle i have a great game that i know of, i could send you an invite

Oh good lord, its only a game. Some people just take it way too serious. If spouses are being lost to others online, all that means is they had it on their minds to leave anyway. No woman or man can steal another's mate. That person has to want to go. People need to stop blaming online companies for what people use them for.